Thursday, March 18, 2010

How to name it?

It would be during the summer annual holidays that we normally gather. Since it would be sultry,the place the most time we would spend in the house would be the Vaasal Varanda, where many people could come in and go out for the grocery stores. The regular amuzement through out the day would be counting the number of buses that comes from chennai and looking for the "Subashree" bus at 8.00 in the morning.

Our next door neighbour was an Iyer that had lot of children. Two of our friends were Uma and her sister Shuba. Playing with them in the vaasal, and looking for Ilaneer (tender cocunut water) and Nongu (palm fruit) man in the afternoons were some of our daily tasks. Raju thatha used to buy Ilaneer or nongu depending upon the availabilty and pierce/peel them in the Nadu Mittham, the sink. We would drink and have the tender cocunut peeled out from him and eat them again in the vaasal.

Afternoons would be very boring sometimes because our villain, Kicha Mama would take his nap on the easy chair and would give a knock on our heads if we make noise. so we would wait for the gentleman to have his coffee and move back to work. Then our maid, Thillaiamma would come and sweep the whole house again. She would bring a pail of water mixed with cowdung to do the vaasal and puts some kind of Kolam in the nadu vaasal. I had chances to do this, as I was the person ever ready to work with Shaani. Sometimes I take the job of cleaning the dining hall with the cowdung.

Evenings are mostly the dressup times. Raju thatha buys garlands of malligaipoo everyday and would keep them fresh in the coffee-kitchen with water sprinkled on. They are saved for Perumal aradhanai for the next day. We use the flowers in the evenings. Girls dress up with Paavadai chattai and have the garland of poo all over the hair. I still remember Swetha who had a very short hair when she was little, wanted the flowers to hit her legs. So, she would keep a lengthy garland of flowers that would be taller than her. Wearing the Valaiyal, Malai, Sticker pottu, Nail Polish shopped from the Darsana Kadai would also go along with grooming. Poor boys, they wouldnt get anything.

So, before we go to bed, to protect us from the anonymous eyeballs that watched us from morning through evening, she would do a drishti suthal in the kitchen near the perumal modai. The whole family would stand in kitchen both the children and grand children and would go the slogan... "Anthi kappu, santhi kaapu, thirumanthi kappu... erapartha kanna eranga pakkadai, erangai partha kanna era pakkade..."

When it is done, she would keep the black combustion dust on our nethi which would be as dark that it would not erase even the next morning. And the smell of the camphor would be rejenuvating that we could go to bed peacefully.

Monday, March 15, 2010

No Substitute for Dhanyasi

One day I was invited for a house warming function at a relative's place in the US. When the priest finished all his rituals he asked me to sing for Harathi. Altough I knew several common song, I sang 'Mangalani Sannu Koti' at the spur of the moment. The priest enjoyed that and told me that its a very uncommon song that he has never listened to it anywhere and wanted lyrics for that.

But it is not so for the D.S family. The Synonym of Manjaneer itself is 'Mangalani'. Although several ladies sing it from every corner, there would be one voice that comes with utmost strength and involvement and that would be hers. She had a very huskier voice and a lower sruthi like D.K.P. Whenever there is a time for Manjaneer, She would be the first lady to stand in the front to sing it. There is also an other Mangalam that she has popularised within the family which is 'Sri ramachadranukku jaya Mangalam'. I think she sings it in Dhanyasi.

During the Pre-trinity music festival held in Nashville a couple of weeks before, we had to sing Bhajana Sampradaya songs and Dr.Mahadevan taught us "Sri ramachandranukku" in Suruti. But I remained silent through out. I could not enjoy it and dint want to sing it.

An email from my dad


Friday, March 12, 2010

Personal loss

This has been a personal loss to me which i unable to overcome.
Believe it or not she is in my dreams daily thru my sleep.
Consoling myself and family

Thursday, March 11, 2010

We dint lose you honey

When she was in her final days, my parents had been telling me to talk with her. I had a chance to do although I dint understand what she spoke. I felt very sorry for her. Then I realised this poor lady is going to depart from us very soon. Also the very moment I decided if I have another baby girl, she will be her.

To my astonishment, we found out a little girl in the sonogram. This little pumpkin not just resembles her in her butt, but also shares a similar taste bud. When I was in my first trimester, the little one did not approve any of the garlic and onion foods. I immediately threw up. Also she has a very good appetite unlike my older one. I have to grab food for every other hour. I am left without much choice.

I was and am quite crazy about naming kids with a Raga name, We named Roma as Padmalakshmi for Namakarnam and I named her Ahiri for a Raga Name. No wonder she could survive without eating for days. I have decided to name Arabhi for this one. Who knows they might couple up to sing as Ahiri-Arabhi sisters?

Friday, March 5, 2010

Semi Automatic Cooking in the Kitchen

Do you wonder she managed with mixers and Grinders and Refridgerators? Nope. They all came to Melaveedhi after they all had 3 generations. She managed with Ammi, Kalloral and Manpaani with wet cloth around.

It's the cooking that I do here. How a contravene personality I could be for this amazing lady? Let me give you some tips for Semi-automatic cooking.
  1. Cut vegetables in 10 minutes, season them and keep them in the microwave and let it cook all by itself. (Semi-automatic, No manual Stirring). Rice in the cooker, Sambar / Rasam in their stoves doing their automatic Cooking. And the effective time spent in the kitchen will be half-an hour
  2. Make Sambar in the Morning if u want to do make Idly or Dosa for Dinner. Or make a North Indian Subji if want to make Chappati.
  3. Make Vathakuzhambu in a large quantity (Anda Naraiya), and make sure you serve your husbands just to make sure they dont over eat and keep the remainder in the Refridgerator, so that on the the next day Cooking time will be = Heating time.
  4. Train your little one to eat lot of fruits and steamed vegetables, so that u dont have to cook at all, or just steam the vegetables and keep it for the whole family, just because ur little one loves it. Sometimes the frozen peas or mixed vegetable will become ur life-saviour and u need not cut vegetables also.

Remember folks, if you follow all these tips, the food's taste come out Outstanding. Yeah, outstandlingly bad. But this is how we survive here.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Delicious Meals on the go

When we return to Chennai from Chidambaram, we would generally travel in the 1.10 Day Express. And the staple food to go, that she would give for us are Molagappodi Idli, Didhyonnam, and some buttermilk seasoned with Ginger,Lemon Juice, salt, Hing, mustard seeds, Curry leaves and Cilantros. The buttermilk would turn sour in the afternoon. But we would have a tumbler of Mor-therrtham before we start which would be Finger lickin' good.

So to carry these memories, I sometimes take such Idlies and Thachi mammu, even when I travel to Nashville. I still remember how we celebrated our First Weddding Anniversery day. I carried Tomato rice and Thairsadam with potato chips and Appalam and went to a park in Toledo,OH and had them all alone in one of the shelters, as it was too Cold in the midwest that no one freaked out in the Park.

Morkili, Kunukku, Baniyan Kizhisal ( an instant dosa with riceflour and sooji), sevai, Bajji/Bonda are some of the regular snack items that she makes in the evening. Yesterday I had Morkili and some snacks from Radha mami. She said she made it specially for me. Oh Boy... I pigged out all of them